It’s fairly normal hearing people say to anyone who’s undergoing pain to just move on. “Don’t torture yourself”, “smile”, “stop being sad”. And there we go, on a voyage to pretend everything is fine and okay. Numbing becomes our coping mechanism. Smiling over our frowns and faking our power on our feelings. We might be shattering inside but the world has no idea, because the etiquette is to appear happy. Not doing so might be too unpleasant to others and come on, it’s rude. So please compose yourself. We do a fine job about it really, to the extend of fooling our own selves. Hardly do we realize the heavy load of…